I just read something explaining that our brain chemistry literally does not process long term rewards, consequences or what others (teachers, parents etc.) say is “important” as reasons to engage in a task. Our motivators include interest, passion, inspiration and exciting challenges, which is partly why we can stay engaged in tasks for a long period of time. (Edited to remove the term “hyper focus”)
It was really validating and relieving to know that our brain chemistry prevents us from responding to the things that neurotypicals respond to. I’m sure, like me, many of us have had experiences with people trying to bribe or punish us as a way get us to do something, but it not working, and then feeling ashamed of our perceived incompetence.
There’s a podcast that explains this in detail and it was extremely affirming to understand how my brain works, and what inspires us to be our most creative and engaged. How ADHD Shapes Your Perceptions, Emotions & Motivation